Step 1 to finding a "Good" man. Just like that....

There are always going to be double standards. It's that way in the animal kingdom from the Praying Mantis eating her mate, to the female lioness hunting for food and defending the pride. We humans with our, "higher cortical function", always try to alter what God and Nature intended. It's impossible to want something traditional like a marriage or courtship, and want to reject all the tradition that has lead to their existence to begin with. So either say F@(k relationships, and do you the way you are comfortable; or learn to appreciate the double standards, and operate within them. Learn your true strength as a woman, and work it to your advantage. If you go out with a guy a few times, and you're not digging him, end it. Stop trying to make every guy that you meet, a life long friend. No guy, who dates you, wants to be put into the friend zone. Especially after he has dropped some coin. Trust me, if he is a decent guy, he has options. The other thing is, women need to stop having such an inflated image of themselves, and what they deserve in a man. Do you deserve someone who respects you? Yes! Someone who you have commonality with? Yes! But why do you deserve someone with a six figure salary? Do you have one? Why do you deserve someone with a six pack abdomen? Is your stomach flat? Why do you deserve someone who worships you? Do you worship God, are you willing to worship your man? Why do you deserve a man who wants children and a family? Are you ready to put yourself aside to help raise and nurture that family? Why do you deserve a guy with a sense of humor? Do you have one? Why do you deserve a guy who is well endowed, and can tighten you up? Do you have firm breasts, a soft bottom, and are you a beast in the sheets? Why do you deserve a man with no drama? Have you gone psycho stalker/belligerent lover lately? In other words, expect from others only what you can provide yourself. Now no one is perfect, but when you do everything within your power to perfect yourself, you are more likely to attract a mate who can compliment your perfections with his own.